Failing to recognize child developmental stages may cause a disability of child development. When children gradually grow up, a lot of changes will happen to them, including physical, intellectual, language and social-emotional. These changes will have a big impact on their life. Child development often happens at a certain age. In order to help parents to understand their children better, we have listed 4 child developmental stages between birth and 12 years old from our findings.
1.Baby Stage（0-12 months old）
This developmental stage is all about cuddling, sleeping, and feeding. Babies learn a lot when you are with them every day. Their brains grow and develop as they see, hear and touch the world around them. They are most interested in your faces. They also like toys with different colors like red, black and white and enjoy toys with faces like swirls or checks.
They can hear you and know your voice, but sometimes they may be scared by sound. They usually communicate with you through crying. They might lift their head briefly or turn it to the side so that they can see where you are and what’s around them. Sometimes your baby will hold your finger, but most of the time they will keep their hands tight fist. Here are some parenting tips for this developmental stage:
- -Spend time with your baby.
- -Look into your baby’s eyes.
- -Smile at your baby.
- -Play with your newborn.
- -Give your baby 1-5 playing minutes.
- -Give your baby 1-5 playing minutes.
2.Toddler Stage（1-3 years old）
This stage is a time for active exploration of the environment around toddlers. Language development takes a major impact on toddlers learning the names of objects of interest, the ability to ask for things and discover independence. During this developmental stage, there are significant physical and intellectual development preparing for toddlers to start school. Developing emotional regulation is a big challenge for toddlers’ education. They will need to learn how to control their emotional expressions and begin to understand the difficult thing like delay gratification. While toddlers are able to say no, they will need help in learning how to accept refusal from others. Some parenting ways about this developmental stage are as follows:
- -Show your children your love by giving them praise, attention, hugs, kisses and good-natured roughhousing.
- -Prioritize rules and gradually add rules over time.
- -Reduce the frequency, duration or intensity of your child’s tantrums.
- -Encourage your child to cooperate by using consequences. Like if your child throws and breaks a toy, he or she won’t have the toy to play with anymore.
- -Act what you want your children to do.
3.Preschooler Stage（3-5 years old）
When children are in the preschool stage, their world will begin to open up. They will become more independent and care more about outside of the family. They will want to explore and ask even more about the things around them. Their interactions with family and things around them will shape their personality and their ways of thinking. During this stage, children should be able to ride tricycles, use safety scissors, dress and undress by themselves, recall something, sing a song, play with other children, and notice the difference between girls and boys. Here are some parenting advice for this stage:
- -Let your children continue to read.
- -Let your children help with simple tasks.
- -Encourage your children to play with other children.
- -Be clear and consistent when disciplining.
- -Explain and show what you want your children to do.
- -Improve children’s language skills like using the correct words and phrases.
- -Help your children solve problems step by step.
- -Offer your child a few simple choices (Like what to wear, when to play, and what to eat for snack).
4.Schooler Stage（6-12 years old）
Children in this stage are most likely to have smooth and strong motor skills. However, their eye-hand coordination, endurance, balance, and physical abilities change. Fine motor skills can also vary widely. These skills will influence children to write neatly, dress appropriately, and perform certain chores like doing dishes. They will change very much in height, weight, and build among children of this age range. Genetic background, nutrition, and exercise can affect their growth. A sense of body begins developing around age 6. Sedentary habits may cause children many health problems such as obesity and heart disease in the future. we have listed some parenting suggestions for this stage:
- -Let children have 1 hour of physical activity every day.
- -Do a speech and language evaluation for your children’s language skills.
- -Keep communicating with teachers or other parents to know possible problems with your children.
- -Encourage children to express themselves without fear of punishment.
- -Give children the freedom to participate in various social experiences but not to over-schedule free time.
- -Discuss public issues openly with your children to share concerns or correct misconceptions. (violence, sexuality, and substance abuse.)
- -Encourage children to join in constructive activities such as sports, clubs, arts, music, and scouts.
- -Arrange family tasks for children such as cleaning up the table.
- -Limit television and other media to 2 hours a day.
As time goes by, children develop very quickly from babies to schoolers. For most parents, it is a big challenge for us to raise children well all the time. Although it is challenging, parents can do that. We did research about children’s development below 12 from hundreds of successful parents. and we found most of them raise their children in certain parenting ways.